I've always been drawn to stories that feature a strong female protagonist. If you go through the books on my bookshelf, the majority of the novels have a woman lead who kicks ass. I'm so enamored with the idea of being fierce and strong, and so terrified of letting fear control me. Ironic right?!
I think most women struggle with their self esteem and their definition of a strong woman. I know that daily I battle with my insecurities and doubt in myself. So how do we pass aside these issues and become the amazon woman? I am determined to search for an answer.
It starts with the definition. What does a strong woman mean to me? I believe a strong woman is someone who is physically and mentally aware of her surroundings and has the courage to confront her fears and opposition. Let me break that down.
Physically, a woman shouldn't let her body control her mood and opinion of herself. This is one of the major struggles in my life. I'm constantly defined by my opinion of my body. Notice how I say my opinion, and not the opinion of others. Because the honest truth is that other people do not have any effect on me or my life. I've determined that it doesn't matter what my size is, but it matters that at the end of the day when I look in the mirror, I do not see disappointment. That usually means I need to be active and use my body in some way every day. If that means I lose weight, so be it. But weight is not the answer. My attitude toward my body is.
Mentally, I believe every woman should continually be exercising her brain and looking toward mental balance. For me this means listening to podcasts or reading about new topics. I learn everyday. I used to say I wanted to be a professional student and while true, I don't have to go to a school to do it. I can use what resources I have at my fingertips to continue to learn and grow as a human being.
Courage is that fleeting idea of standing up against your fears and failures. But it doesn't have to be fleeting. Any moment that you experience fear, it is a good thing. You are then challenged to rise above it. It tests the strength inside of you. I promise myself now that anytime I am confronted with doubts, fear, anxiety, and failure, that I will pull up my big girl panties and ride to war. I will conquer the opposition, climb the highest mountains, and push past those obstacles.
I encourage everyone to share their deepest fears and strongest desires. My biggest fear is dying without seeing enough of the world and my strongest desire is to be the best female lead in my own life that I can be. Know that in your struggles I am there with you, fighting through the trenches of female self esteem issues. I believe we are all beautiful, strong, confident, independent, and daring women. We just have to access the side of ourselves that we've buried long ago. Join me in the commitment to strength. I'll see you on the other side of that mountain. <3